1.WHAT DO I HOPE TO ACHIEVE BY THIS VISIT?
These brothers and sisters are long within the church. They have been on the giving end of love, cheer, and service throughout their lives. The love of the Church is still there, but the load has perhaps become a bit heavier with time. Your purpose is to show them honor and fellowship and Christian service. Perhaps many of their good friends or even a spouse have gone to their heavenly home. They may not see their children or others with frequency anymore. Your presence could be the sunshine in their window. READ Lev 19:32, Prov 16:31, Prov 23:22, Eph 6:1-2 1 Tim 5:1-2
2.SHOULD I TELEPHONE BEFORE GOING?
A phone call before going will not be necessary in most instances. Most seniors are glad to have someone drop by for a visit. If there is a question as to the advisability of a visit at the time you have planned, then a telephone call would be in order.
3.WHEN SHOULD I GO?
An early morning to afternoon visit is advisable. Senior Christians, depending upon their age and health, may begin to tire as the day wears on. Catching them when they are feeling more energetic will be greatly welcomed.
4.SHOULD I GO ALONE?
Yes, if you prefer. If you have children, they too may be appreciated. However, use common sense in the case of a younger more active child. Fears of things being broken or the blur of a toddler can be overwhelming. There, of course, is nothing wrong with taking a friend or your companion along.
5.WHAT SHALL I DO WHEN I GET THERE?
Our Senior members have a lifetime of experiences and knowledge, frequently sitting for coffee or tea produces great conversation. Many also are willing to share talents they have picked up over the years (sewing, fly tying, scrapbooking, etc. There is a wealth of joy and guidance waiting to be shared with our senior members.
Many members who have reached these blessed years are often in need of small services. They may need to be driven to the store, have wood brought in for the stove, dishes washed, small fix-its waiting to be worked on, and a host of other scenarios. The simple pleasure of reading may now be gone as well, as eyes may have faded. Reading the Bible or their favorite magazine may be a welcome service.
6.WHAT SHALL I TALK ABOUT?
Bring them up to date on what the Church has been doing, its attendance, contributions, work program, responses, etc. Talk about mutual friends and those about whom they particularly inquire. Avoid gossiping or finding fault with either the Church or individual members. In your conversations always show your thankfulness for advice given. Knowing that they can be useful in another’s life is encouraging.
As mentioned previously, senior brothers and sisters like to hear the Bible read. Have in mind some appropriate passages and if there is a Bible handy, ask if they would like for you to read a little. Prayer is also appreciated.
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7.SHOULD I LEAVE ANY WRITTEN MATERIAL?
There will likely not be any need to leave written materials. However, small tokens such as flowers, pictures from children, etc. will be warmly received.
8.HOW LONG SHOULD I STAY?
It will depend upon the energy level of the one you are visiting as well as how well you know them. If able, many senior Christians like to visit. Don’t rush off in such instances. If possible, plan to spend at least an hour, but be aware of any fatigue on the member’s part and act appropriately.
9.WHAT ARRANGEMENTS SHOULD I HAVE BEFORE LEAVING?
Be alert to any real needs. If they need groceries, if they could use help around the house, let others know and try to render assistance where merited. Inquire if there is anything you can do.
10. WHAT SHOULD I REPORT?
State the date and time of day of your visit on the back of your contact notice. Report any special needs, which you could not meet alone. See that the contact notice is returned with your report on the back by the date shown on it. File the report with the elders / at the building.
11. HOW WILL THIS REPORT BE USED?
It will be numbered with the contacts made in your zone and included in the elders monthly report.
If there are any needs reported, they will be looked into and met where feasible. If the case warrants, others will make calls and be able to do a more effective job because of the information you have supplied than they otherwise could have.
12. AM I THROUGH WITH THIS CONTACT AFTER THE ONE VISIT?
If you are able, you will want to check on them by phone or another visit at various times. Even a short call to let them know you had them in your thoughts will be appreciated. Such an interest may go a long way in helping them avoid the feeling of loneliness. They will probably think warmly of you and remember you for some time for being so thoughtful.
